There is one on every vacation, a day sacrificed to getting ready to go home in one way or another. It’s usually the last day. I think of as the lost day. Other people might be better at this than we are, but we seem to need to rally ourselves for the journey, sometimes even more than the outbound leg.
It isn’t the day we focus on a great last meal, or final museum or site. This is just the way it happens. So this morning we go to the roof breakfast room and discover a swimming pool we have missed. Dang! It’s too late, since we are reserved at another spot for tonight. We check out and are in the no man’s land of time between checking out and checking in. We meander around this small town and discover that we know it well, in just a day.
I would like to shop for a few things, but the store I saw last night with a little something for Steve & Vern doesn’t reopen until tonight and by then we will be in a different part of town without a car. Then there are the shoes that I know are somewhere in Italy calling my name – a pair the same colour as my purse. They will have to wait until next time. Last night we did find a hat for Kevin. He wanted the Pope’s hat, but we didn’t see him, or his hat rack. This may be an OK substitute.
When I think about the last 27 days, I am amazed at all that we have seen and done. What a gift this trip has been. We are equally amazed at the ancient sites we have visited and the natural sights we have witnessed. We were firmly on the tourist trail, and we were also lucky enough to get way off it on back roads with towns that didn’t make the maps and their own ancient sites. We loved finding and enjoying the hot springs in Saturnia. It makes me so glad that we prepare for our trips by doing research because we wouldn’t have known about them otherwise.
When we compared notes last night, we both loved Venice the best. Sure it was expensive, but to be in a place so unique, and with no cars, living in a true neighbourhood, was awesome. As was taking boats everywhere.
Finally, there are a number of general observations we have about Italy – things to remember for next time.
· Facecloths do not exist here; if I want it, I have to bring it.
· Laundromats, even the self-service ones, supplied the soap! Big change since my last Laundromat days.
· If there are only two cars on the road, they will travel inches apart.
· Two-way traffic means that if there is room to have three cars across people will pass in their own lane. This is especially true for motorbikes.
· Stop signs say STOP. What’s up with that? Isn’t there an Italian word for stop? After all, exits say escutia, not exit.
· I like Limoncello, especially ice cold!
· Out of the big cities, carry your own food if you need to eat before 7:30 p.m. In some cases, bars can be counted on to serve sandwiches and other light fare, but don’t expect British pub style variety.
· Gelato is a gift from the gods – have lots.
· In May 2012, gas has ranged from 1.62 to 1.92 Euros per litre. Is this where we are headed at home?
· Hotels, even four-star lovelies, do not provide proper glasses in the rooms. Perhaps if you petitioned at the front desk or bar they might deliver some, but we received two, delightful, acrylic, travel wine glasses for Christmas and have used them everywhere! Thanks Bean!
· Due to the compact size of streets, price of gas, etc. there is a very cool little thing over here that is a little flatbed truck built on a three-wheel motorcycle chassis. They are steered with motorcycle style handles in the cab. I want one!
· Vis à vis above, there is another model with a bench seat and actual steering wheel that is only fractionally bigger and can seat two very friendly people. That would be cool too!
· I also saw a Vespa that carries its own spare tire. OK, now I want one of those for sure. Couldn’t choose between my two favourite colours, cyan and purple.
· Not sure if this is typical as you travel further south from Rome, but as we entered areas like Gaeta where they probably saw fewer tourists, it was hard to find a restaurant that wasn’t at a hotel. Maybe locals don’t dine out as much as other places?
· However, Gaeta did have three places we saw that advertised themselves as Discos. Wish we could have stayed up late enough to see if anyone wore a white suit and pointed their finger upstairs when they danced.
· Anzio, which I kind of looked forward to visiting with its wartime importance wasn’t even in our guidebook. When we got there, nothing pointed to any special sites from the highway we were on, and we were through it quickly. This felt odd.
· Bidets have been in every hotel room and private apartment we have stayed in. They have even been in the public washrooms of better hotels. Not having grown up with this convenience – and there were times in my younger days when it would have been well appreciated – I am now happy to report that they work very well for foot baths after hours of walking, or for mini pedicures. This only works, of course, if they have positioned the toilet so as to make the bidet foot friendly and if they are excruciatingly clean.
· I know I mentioned in the blog that smoking is prevalent over here, but seriously, it is like watching Mad Men. Or being at our house through the 80s! People smoke everywhere, especially in front of “no smoking” signs. Hotels seem to be the one exception and that is likely because they have fined enough people that it is no longer a problem. We have seen people smoking while driving scooters, bicycles and cars, which compounds a problem because many of them are also likely to be on their cell phones. What body part is driving? We have not checked out the price of cigarettes, which might have something to do with this phenomenon. However, given the driving style, I do not want to be in this country when masses enter nicotine withdrawal!
· It’s hard not to spend a lot of time commenting on the driving here because it is so aggressive and there are no rules. Well, it looks like there are rules, because there are signs, but if you stop at a stop sign you are likely to be hit from behind! People come out of side streets that have stop signs with enough of their car that if you hesitate, they will cut in. If you believe that they have left two to three inches from the side of your car, you just go for it. It feels like one gigantic game of chicken.
Roundabouts are everywhere and with the coming in and going out they actually work amazingly well, as long as you stay your course. There seems to be some magic that happens like a school of fish that you never see bumping into each other, even though they are making insane turns. Well, it can seem like that until you see a car that is carrying its broken off front bumper in its passenger seat, as we did today.
We are thrilled that we surrendered our rental after two weeks, with no more damage than it started with, a testament to my man getting his macho driving on, but at a price. He is glad to give up the stress. Thanks Duds, great job!
· And just one more thing to do with cars…parking, especially double parking is endemic. Then there is the my-nose-has-fit-into-this-space, it-doesn’t-matter-that-the-rest-of-my-car-is-blocking-the-road style. My particular favorite is the fact that with parking allowed on only one side of many streets, cars are parked facing both directions. It is impossible to distinguish a ‘one way’ street from the parking, but then, hey, ‘one way’ is probably optional!
· To tell a story on ourselves, we were in the Centro Storico of Terracina. There were very few street signs so we just kept taking turns and ended up on one of those skinny medieval streets that are about six inches wider than our compact car. Shopkeepers watched us go past. No one indicated there was a problem, until we arrived at a gate in the wall that encircled the city and there was a bollard blocking the only way out. I could feel Dennis pale. Backing up for a mile or so down this tiny lane would be brutal. Two bicyclists coming in the gate gave us the stink eye, but a local just waved his hands in a “go ahead” motion. We pointed at the bollard and he walked over and lifted it out of the road for us to pass. There weren’t enough “grazies” shouted out the car window as we drove through. Hope he got a chuckle out of it.
· A word about Italian cats is in order. First, there are lots of them, many feral. I understand at one point they overran the Coliseum in Rome, but they somehow dealt with that. Now they are just shy and plentiful, in all places. One of the strangest cats we saw in Terracina looked like it came off a (bad) designer’s runway. The front half was black and sleek, the back half – literally as if they had sewn two cats together in the middle – was brown, and long haired. I could only get pics from quite a distance, but it should still be evident. Some of these cats were so responsive to a word of kindness, I wish they had a better, safer life.
· Have I mentioned the blood orange juice? It is so good. It is on most hotel breakfast buffets and I enjoy its tartness relative to its North and Central American cousins. And perhaps I have not mentioned the breakfasts that virtually all hotels put on as part of the rate. Many are sumptuous, but tend to the sweet side, since Europeans tend to like sweets to start the day. Today we actually had eggs and bacon, but that is the first time we have seen that, generally the protein is yogourt, cheese or ham.
· We noticed in Mexico that cell phones were enthusiastically adopted because they missed a costly infrastructure of wired phones. The same may be true in Italy, or someone may have just said they were cool and so instantly everyone older than about 10 has one and like at an all-you-can-eat buffet, it seems they don’t feel like they are getting their money’s worth unless they are on the phones all the time! Seriously, in a country where “looking good” is a cultural imperative being on the phone is the ultimate accessory. We have seen everyone from grandmothers with their grandkids, taxi drivers, cyclists, motorbike drivers, people just walking down the street, waiters, cooks, gas station attendants and bus drivers all living a separate life on their phone from the one they are living in the physical world. It is really interesting since hand gestures are such a part of a conversation here, to guess whether the gesture has to do with their physical reality or the conversation they are having. It is a research study waiting to happen. And have I mentioned that they haven’t really adopted Bluetooth yet. Just wait until they know they can get their hands free!
· The final observation is that in each town or city there has been a Centro Storico in some cases medieval, and in other cases only a couple of hundred years old. What is truly interesting is that these areas are not museums, they are vibrant areas where people still live. I am sure they deal with all the frustrations that any of us would with old plumbing (no plumbing?) etcetera, but they live here. Children’s toys are apparent in areas where people have lived and raised children for literally thousands of years. I struggle when I think of how these people put themselves in this multigenerational landscape. As someone from the New World, this is one of the first times I actually feel it viscerally. I live in a place with trees I could cut down and build another house. I live where there is only the incredible history of nature and the slightest stain by humans. We have not built Coliseums, or the Vatican, or castles, or raised sculpture fit for the gods, but we can appreciate wonder and learn from history. We have a different relationship with history…it doesn’t define us, and in this, we are blessed.
Thank you Italy, it has been amazing and delicious and sexy – thanks for checking us out even as old peeps – we have loved our time here and hope to return. Next time, Southern Italy, but we realize we need to learn more of your language first, and how to use the trains and buses effectively, because as much as we enjoy your company, we really don’t want to drive here again. Ciao! Ciao!



